The Quiet Power of Listening
倾听的安静力量
We spend years learning how to speak well, but almost nobody teaches us how to listen. Yet listening is the skill that decides whether a conversation helps or hurts.
我们花很多年学习如何把话说得漂亮，却几乎没人教我们如何倾听。然而，倾听才是决定一段谈话是帮了人还是伤了人的关键。
My grandfather was a quiet man who hardly ever gave advice. When I told him about a quarrel with my best friend, he just nodded and let me finish.
我的祖父是个安静的人，几乎从不给人建议。当我说起和好朋友的一次争吵时，他只是点点头，让我把话说完。
After half an hour of talking, I realised that I had solved the problem by myself. He had done nothing except stay there and pay attention, and that was exactly what I needed.
说了半个小时后，我意识到问题是被我自己解决的。他什么都没做，只是坐在那里认真听——而这正是我需要的。
Real listening means putting your own reply aside for a while and trying to see the world from another seat. It costs almost nothing, and it is one of the kindest gifts you can give a person.
真正的倾听，意味着暂时把自己的回答搁在一边，试着从别人的座位看这个世界。它几乎不花什么代价，却是你能给一个人的最温柔的礼物之一。